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elizabethb
elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 8:18pm
Is it just me or has society reached a whole new low!?

Or is it that the parents aren't doing their job?
Or the School isn't strict enough?
Or the children need to be medicated?
Or is it media we should blame for all of this?

Why do I now seem to have more chance getting kids to behave compared to their parents? Why do they not respect their parents????

My scenario (unfortunately true):
Several weeks ago, a student (male) acted very inappropriately towards an object with their body and purposefully gained my attention to gague my reaction. This recieved a suspension.

Two weeks ago I was mooned (over hald his backside a few minutes too) by the same student purposefully as he entered the room and continued to do so while laughing until I reached the boss. NOT SUSPENDED because he is denying it.

So in your opinion, what would you do!? Because I'm furious nothing is happening and what an example this sets for State Education.
Gizmo
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18 Oct 2011 8:59pm
Next time get a pic of it... I'm sure he will let you if he is that brazen. Blow up the pic and let the class pin the tail on the donkey or display it via the data projector and let the whole class have a look as well.
Embarrass the hell out of him

Mark _australia
Mark _australia
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18 Oct 2011 6:30pm
Disgusting. Suspension is no punishment to kids who often don't want to be at school, and a principal who takes the kid's word over yours should be shot (especially when he has obviously been in trouble before)

Dunno about there but in WA law parents can still smack a kid and teachers are in the same boat - lawful chastisement of a child.
So if a teacher did it here they would be legally covered - but it is Ed Dept policy that you can't touch a kid. It is the social engineers who have stuffed it by coming up with policies like that.

2000 years of appropriate balance between punishment and reward and things were fine.
20 years of the 'we know better' crowd and look at how things are out of control.

(1) cane the kid
(2) the parents need a heads up too, I bet many of them defend the kid, and even worse do it within earshot so he learns he will get away with it.


Liz, teachers like you having a gutful of it are the only ones that will be able to change this mess ...so tell anyone who will listen
getfunky
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18 Oct 2011 6:31pm
Capsicum spray anything you don't like the look of.
pierrec45
pierrec45
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18 Oct 2011 9:31pm
Parents.

I've coached 3 kids sports, and there's nothing to be done.
They're taught to behave, or parents find it amusing that they don't.

I found it impossible to give the same treatment and privileges to all kids, I know it's not their fault (when young), but if they don't start paying the price young, when will they ??
elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 8:33pm
pierrec45 said...

Parents.
I know it's not their fault (when young), but if they don't start paying the price young, when will they ??


I smile that in the "real world" I would have handled this totally differently and I'm certain everyone else around me would have too.
Mark _australia
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18 Oct 2011 6:33pm
I get the feeling this will be a long thread too
elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 8:35pm
Mark _australia said...

Disgusting. Suspension is no punishment to kids who often don't want to be at school, and a principal who takes the kid's word over yours should be shot (especially when he has obviously been in trouble before)

Liz, teachers like you having a gutful of it are the only ones that will be able to change this mess ...so tell anyone who will listen


I know Mark, I want punishment; something that says to him you cannot do that to people. An apology. Written. In front of the class. Something that would make him pay for being so rude.
I hope to tell a lot because this just isn't acceptable! This is where schools start to go wrong!

LOL @ Getfunky - Wish I could!
chrispychru
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18 Oct 2011 8:35pm
well when i was a little tacker........ this is what happens to the world when do gooders do no good. a out of control society where there are not any consequences to the actions of people behaving badly..... they have their rights and they know it. civil libertarian is a couple of words that make me sick im old now, cause when i was growing up i was so mental and here i am now saying kids are f......d, but i did cop some floggings...it was fun though
mineral1
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18 Oct 2011 6:39pm
getfunky said...

Capsicum spray anything you don't like the look of.


Spray right on his exposed chocky freckle including his Mills and Wares, would have him some explaining to do with the law and his parents as the nether region doesnt like such exposure. [}:)]You would be off free as a breeze as you can claim " I felt threatened by his behaviour".
I would have him reported anyway, if nothing else, he gets logged in the system and builds a profile that he will have trouble with if he keeps up this mode of action.
Gwendy
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18 Oct 2011 9:10pm
The one thing this generation has in common with all the previous ones is that they all complain about kids these days. I read a story in national geographic about how there were complaints about teenagers when the dead sea scrolls were being deciphered and that was before Jesus was born.

There are great kids, horrible kids and everything in between. Dont take this the wrong way, but if this upsets you so much that your bringing it home from work and you are generalising children as you are, you may be in the wrong profession.
elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 8:42pm
mineral1 said...

getfunky said...

Capsicum spray anything you don't like the look of.

I would have him reported anyway, if nothing else, he gets logged in the system and builds a profile that he will have trouble with if he keeps up this mode of action.


You cannot imagine how DIFFICULT it is to be expelled as a student. They can do everything and anything and just get suspended... You get 20 days suspension for smoking weed in uniform or just watching someone do it!!!!! What punishment is that? A free holiday for 4 weeks and they are meant to do the work we sent home but never do - Seriously there is something wrong with the world!
elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 8:47pm
Gwendy said...

There are great kids, horrible kids and everything in between. Dont take this the wrong way, but if this upsets you so much that your bringing it home from work and you are generalising children as you are, you may be in the wrong profession.


I undertand your persepective Gwendy, but I've known since I was 12 I wanted to be a teacher; my job means bringing work home and students lives into my own life! I end up knowing more and giving more mentoring and advice than some parents give them and I'm 24- It says a lot.

The majority are great; it's the minority who I end up fighting to educate and WANTING to teach them because other teachers the year before have kicked them out every lesson. I AM the one asking for the same "bad and naughty" kids next year because this year I've made a difference and as much as they hate how much I contact all parents about HW, assignments and keep them in at lunch to makesure they understand it, they have begun to appreciate that I care.

It's the lack of appropriate punishment that erks me so much.
patsken
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18 Oct 2011 6:47pm
Can only get worse me thinks.

Simply put: Undisciplined child of the 60's has 2 or 3 undisciplined kids of his/her own in the 80's.

2 of the 3 offspring don't "see the light" and become adults with little respect and discipline. They then have 2 or 3 kids that they pass their attitudes on to and so it progresses through time.

The world is going to be over-run by people who have had little or no "education" in respect for others......

I'm exaggerating but you know what I mean hopefully. And hopefully I'm wrong
SandS
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18 Oct 2011 9:58pm
patsken said...

Can only get worse me thinks.

Simply put: Undisciplined child of the 60's has 2 or 3 undisciplined kids of his/her own in the 80's.

2 of the 3 offspring don't "see the light" and become adults with little respect and discipline. They then have 2 or 3 kids that they pass their attitudes on to and so it progresses through time.

The world is going to be over-run by people who have had little or no "education" in respect for others......

I'm exaggerating but you know what I mean hopefully. And hopefully I'm wrong


unfortunately you are spot on . they are breeding.

its only going to get worse.

you need a licence to drive a car but not to breed.

harsh but true .

[ flame suit on ]
elmo
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18 Oct 2011 7:01pm
Gizmo said...

Next time get a pic of it... I'm sure he will let you if he is that brazen. Blow up the pic and let the class pin the tail on the donkey or display it via the data projector and let the whole class have a look as well.
Embarrass the hell out of him




If he is a minor, DO not take a photo, lest you want the sh1t to really hit the fan.

you can

Recommend he has that spot on his bum looked at

Ask if he's waiting like that for that "special" someone?

Start lodging formal reports rather than verbal ones and cc them to the Education dept


elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 9:15pm
elmo said...
If he is a minor, DO not take a photo, lest you want the sh1t to really hit the fan.
Start lodging formal reports rather than verbal ones and cc them to the Education dept


Of course I know what can and cannot be done Elmo; I still want my job!

A formal report to our principal will go nowhere because it would make her look bad; would have to send it to Head of EQ or Region then I would get slammed for going above her head . I've asked Union advice today and will hear from them soon.

chronic
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18 Oct 2011 10:28pm
there used to be something called control in school
it was also called the cane
you could get
1 ,2,3 4, or 6
6 on each hand
or 6 each hand and 6 across your rear
and more ...
poor relative
poor relative
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18 Oct 2011 7:46pm
Get a job in another school that requires the parents to pay money to have their child educated.
At least then there are some sort of standards and the teachers are a bit more united (my experience anyway)
pierrec45
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18 Oct 2011 10:47pm
I disagree that it was that way in the past, all those excuses.
There were bad kids and bad behaviours in the past I'm sure, but the system had means to deal with them - expulsions, smack on the head, threats thereof, etc.

Not anymore. Notwithstanding the fact that some parents have given up disciplining kids - they just want "to be loved" right? Let them play video games all day...

When me mongrels were in kindergarten, some Walmart-looking cow complained that there were more children than chairs... at musical chairs, and that her kid had lost out. Sure enough the next day it was 10 kids and 11 chairs - you don't want to be sued, right? (Not a joke folks)

A teacher friend was telling me how she informed the parents of a kid that'd behaved badly. The father goes an inch from her face and threatened her with being sued and that she'd regret it for many years if she applied any discipline to his son - and all that in front of the brat.

And so on. That's the new society.

PS: and how's married life treating you, Elizabeth ?
poor relative
poor relative
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18 Oct 2011 7:57pm
Its so sad.
Kids need amongst many other things structure boundaries and discipline.

Really parents and the school should be on the same page when it comes to these basics.
I think the reality is that for more and more kids even both parents aren't on the same page.



elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 10:01pm
poor relative said...

Get a job in another school that requires the parents to pay money to have their child educated.
At least then there are some sort of standards and the teachers are a bit more united (my experience anyway)


That's my plan when I'm older and don't want to have to focus as much on behaviour and just teach.

I believe if I do the hard yards now it may at least make some difference on the 150 students a year I teach.... Over 10 or 20 years that's a lot of students I have hopefully made more respectful, mathematically smarter and caring people.

At least I can hope...

pierrec45 said...


PS: and how's married life treating you, Elizabeth ?


Couldn't be better Pierrec! This one incident (plus my departments issues) is my only complaint (as large as it is I know).
BulldogPup
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18 Oct 2011 8:10pm
Well Mark - you're right , it could be a marathon thread ..... and to the good posters who mention that it starts at home - absolutely on the dollar there!
....way way too many "14 year-old parents" who obviously think that they are their kids best friends rather than what they are - parents!
looks to me that it is being put on educators to be real parents - feel for elizabethB and her peers.
Gwendy
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18 Oct 2011 10:48pm
elizabethb said...

Gwendy said...

There are great kids, horrible kids and everything in between. Dont take this the wrong way, but if this upsets you so much that your bringing it home from work and you are generalising children as you are, you may be in the wrong profession.


I undertand your persepective Gwendy, but I've known since I was 12 I wanted to be a teacher; my job means bringing work home and students lives into my own life! I end up knowing more and giving more mentoring and advice than some parents give them and I'm 24- It says a lot.

The majority are great; it's the minority who I end up fighting to educate and WANTING to teach them because other teachers the year before have kicked them out every lesson. I AM the one asking for the same "bad and naughty" kids next year because this year I've made a difference and as much as they hate how much I contact all parents about HW, assignments and keep them in at lunch to makesure they understand it, they have begun to appreciate that I care.

It's the lack of appropriate punishment that erks me so much.


I curtainly admire your dedication. It would be sad if you burnt out at your age when you have so much to offer.

The point I try to make is that after 50,000 odd years of human existance It can't be true that our offspring are suddenly unmanageable in the last twenty years and the world is going to end.

I went to school in western sydney during the 60's and the crap that went on then was ten times worse than anything I'm witnessing now. You got mooned and thats offensive, at least he didn't vandalise your car and wait for you on a dark street corner. That used to happen. It just didn't end up on youtube and got hushed up. Sure, you got caught misbehaving you copped a beating, The cane was the preffered dispenser of justice in my school, and I got 6 cuts of it more that once. The truth is that in all the violence I have seen dished up to children in the name of dicipline, Not once has it changed the childs behavior.

All it does is teach the child that violence is an acceptible way of dealing with issues.I have children and sometimes my first instinct is to smack them when they're naughty. Thats how I was brought up. Thank god my wife is too intelligent for that and conviced me of the folly. There are better ways to punish.

Oh, and I'm not suggesting elizabeth that you would condone physical forms of punishment. We have been dealing with schools now as parents for 10 years and have heard some very good teachers say exactly what you are, We know how much they appreciate dicipline at home.

Mark _australia
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18 Oct 2011 8:19pm
poor relative said...

Get a job in another school that requires the parents to pay money to have their child educated.
At least then there are some sort of standards and the teachers are a bit more united (my experience anyway)


That was one of my thoughts too - then I thought we need teachers like Elizabeth in the public system ... ones who care and want to chage things from the inside cos us parents have no chance. "No idea" too, according to the more enlightened far left even though about 80% of society disagrees with what is happening.


the solution -everyone is sterilized at puberty, in a reversible operation. Then once you have a job and can pass a parenting test you get a license to have the operation reversed.
LOTS of social ills cured.
Wineman
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18 Oct 2011 11:24pm
Stay with it Liz.

Teaching is a very honourable, sometimes difficult, but very satisfying profession. It is something that I don't have the ability to do.

Been married to an exceptional teacher for 34 yrs.

( & I still wear your gath )
cheers
elizabethb
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18 Oct 2011 10:32pm
Gwendy - I hear you but I don't want to beat the child; Just some meer acceptance of appropriate vs. non-appropriate behaviour would be nice with an honest apology. If he did that to someone else on the street, they'd punch his head in.

Mark _australia said...

poor relative said...

Get a job in another school that requires the parents to pay money to have their child educated.
At least then there are some sort of standards and the teachers are a bit more united (my experience anyway)

That was one of my thoughts too - then I thought we need teachers like Elizabeth in the public system ... ones who care and want to chage things from the inside cos us parents have no chance. "No idea" too, according to the more enlightened far left even though about 80% of society disagrees with what is happening.
the solution -everyone is sterilized at puberty, in a reversible operation. Then once you have a job and can pass a parenting test you get a license to have the operation reversed.
LOTS of social ills cured.



Mark - 25-50% of teachers quit in their first five years; I wonder its if its because of beahviour, reality check or they thought it was a 9-3 job with no take-home work!?
LOVE the sterilized idea - another teacher mentioned this to me at the start of this year; but I wouldn't want one person in charge of deciding who gets it lol
Love the point

Wineman said...

Stay with it Liz.
Teaching is a very honourable, sometimes difficult, but very satisfying profession. It is something that I don't have the ability to do.
Been married to an exceptional teacher for 34 yrs.
( & I still wear your gath )
cheers


Thanks Peter - Satisfying 99% of the time, just this 1% brings you down and makes you feel not important at all! Imagine if he did it to the Principal!? Would that be dealt with differently!? Maybe I should phrase it that way to her... hmm.

Pleased you get use out of the helmet! It was an ornament for a long time!
theDoctor
theDoctor
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19 Oct 2011 12:18am

Protocols of the elders of zion

Dismiss it laugh it off as conspiracy

But the west is very quickly becoming a product of it

Our youth is the perfect litmus example
waveslave
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18 Oct 2011 9:26pm
Mark _australia said...

the solution -everyone is sterilized at puberty, in a reversible operation. Then once you have a job and can pass a parenting test you get a license to have the operation reversed.
LOTS of social ills cured.



You really do have a nazi-like quality, Markie. ^^^
lol.

longwinded
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18 Oct 2011 9:44pm
It is little maggots like this that can f..k your career.
You need to be pro-active.
Document the circumstances of your grievence and send it in letter form to the principle, accepting his terms of punishment and that you consider the matter closed.
The maggot may do it again...and again. But as his confidence grows, he will f..k up and allow friends to take a photo, facebook, and/or twitter, or other evidence will appear.
But you document it all the way by way of letters.
As soon as the photo appears so will your letters to the principal.
No dirt on you. Mud covered principle and just deserts for the little f..k!
Flux
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18 Oct 2011 11:10pm
I am surprised at the response, first and foremost from the principal?
The first question I'd be asking is, why should I waste my time teaching at a school that has the head undermining my motivation to seek some form of support to discipline a unruly student?

I agree with the majority here, there is definitely a shift in respectful actions towards others, but it's also not isolated to just kids either
.
It must be stressful trying to educate disrespectful idiotic students.
If punishments are of ill standard which I am sure they definitely are now, given this "new Society belief"
Could you change tact on this?, and if the said student is so eager to disrespect you then disrespect them back ever so subtly and show them up in front of there peers, let them punish through anti social behaviour by making it apparent how much of an idiot this kid is in front of the rest of the class.
Gain control back by being calm, cool and smart about the whole situation without losing sight of above said plan.
Dunno just an idea outside the box maybe?
Goodluck with it.
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