It's good to vent evlPanda, especially when the younguns are so young...every parent needs to!!

Mine are now 8 (today!!) and 11 and way back yonder I never thought I would survive. But you do....and thank the Gods or Dogs that you have a Nanny in your life to help out...this little black duck never did while I had a screamer glued to my tit or over my shoulder for the first two years of her life (literally..no joke).
The rewards are endless...the screamer is now The Wookie who skateboards, cycles, is my autopilot on the boat, drools with her mama over the bigger faster cats that we aspire to own, and can't wait to get big enough to learn to kitesurf...she is amazing!!!
The other one is just as amazing in a deep as the deep blue sea way!!! She's the one who will sit on the foredeck and research and classify every creature we have seen on the beach or in the water.
They're special mate....but anything that's special is hard work.
About your girl....don't ever let that slip....this is the danger time that you have to remain ever vigilant through to keep the passion alive, the fire burning. Sadly, some of us don't make it. Utilise that Nanny to take The Girl out on hot dates and make sure you treat her like a woman, not the mother of your children...find the time, find the energy.

All the other **** in life is just that...materialistic, meaningless, ****....love and life is what keeps it all together. If you miss a bday party; email; school gig;....big woop...let go, do what you can.
Stay strong and get plenty of ocean time
Trace