Advice needed.
My daughter is in the Australian Girls Choir. Every couple of weeks they have to travel quite a distance to a venue for an entire practise leading up to concerts at the Opera House.
Whilst picking her up from weekly practise I was accosted by another girls dad who turned out to be her step-dad. Anyway he asked if I could pick up this girl from the venue, drive her home and drop her off at their place. I was a bit taken aback so I agreed.
2 trips of over an hour each way and no thank you's etc. I thought, bugger it, Im doing the right thing. This keeps happening, I get a vague call on my mobile saying as long as Im going out there can I bring this girl home.
The thing is I got a call from the girls mum asking what her slack husband was doing asking me to do the favour. I didnt know what to say.
Then today I get another phone call, (I didnt answer) asking if I can pick this kid up tomorrow night, Thursday, and bring her home.
Im getting a bit jack of it. If it wasnt for my daughters sake I would tell this bloke where to go. My wife says this bloke is becoming a habitual bludger.
I still dont know why he cant do it.
So what do you reckon?
Tell him to bugger off, make up an excuse etc.
Any serious suggestions considered.

Tell him yes, then "forget" to pick up his girl.
Then he will end up dealing with an angry teenager

Do you trust him to pick up your daughter as well? And do you owe this guy anything? If the answers are YES nad NO respectively, first ask him whether he would be prepared to share the driving, and if not, why not. Until you ask, you don't know why he can't reciprocate. He might be too busy visiting his other kid in hospital with cancer. Or he might just be a slackarse.

Then do what evlPanda says. If you do trust him, tell him what an acceptable arrangement would be to you, 'cos obviouosly the current situation ain't going to work.

Don't play games, don't be a wuss. Deal with it like you're in control and you'll feel better for it.

ka43 said...

Advice needed.
My daughter is in the Australian Girls Choir. Every couple of weeks they have to travel quite a distance to a venue for an entire practise leading up to concerts at the Opera House.
Whilst picking her up from weekly practise I was accosted by another girls dad who turned out to be her step-dad. Anyway he asked if I could pick up this girl from the venue, drive her home and drop her off at their place. I was a bit taken aback so I agreed.
2 trips of over an hour each way and no thank you's etc. I thought, bugger it, Im doing the right thing. This keeps happening, I get a vague call on my mobile saying as long as Im going out there can I bring this girl home.
The thing is I got a call from the girls mum asking what her slack husband was doing asking me to do the favour. I didnt know what to say.
Then today I get another phone call, (I didnt answer) asking if I can pick this kid up tomorrow night, Thursday, and bring her home.
Im getting a bit jack of it. If it wasnt for my daughters sake I would tell this bloke where to go. My wife says this bloke is becoming a habitual bludger.
I still dont know why he cant do it.
So what do you reckon?
Tell him to bugger off, make up an excuse etc.
Any serious suggestions considered.

Easy, tell him couple times was OK, but think he should be available and will need to either meet you some place or come to your place to get her, as you haven't time running her about.
You win, both ways, you save fuel bill, your Daughter has her friend over for a while cos it was Dads idea or at least gets to share the trip with her.
If he gets testy, then its "mate, you want me to help you out as a favour, or you just bludging on my good nature" response from you.
He has too either agree to your recommendation, or look like a proper drop kick.
You can lead in by telling his wife prior of your intending plan.

If all else fails, tell him you think she is pretty

Is he too busy because his bong needs packing?
Is he worried about driving because he lost his license for 10 years after blowing 0.18 for the third time?
Does he detest his daughter so much that any time apart is a relief?

What's this guys malfunction?

And why should you be his bitch?

www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/accosted
": to approach and speak to often in a challenging or aggressive way"
Are you serious?


Take all the advice from above posts (maybe not Sailhacks', not without backup) and then borrow his mower, and drill, and leaf-blower, and ladder... screw it, fill ya shed with his stuff... show him what bludging is really about.

Richiefish said...

generous people often get exploited. Tell him (with a smile on your face) "bout your turn to drive isnt it mate?"

Good idea, but I'd still be picking up my own daughter! I wouldn't trust this guy, (or any stranger for that matter) with your daughter's life.....

I think it's worth a case of VB per trip

He sounds like a VB drinker

Then you can go thru the fun of giving away a case of VB....again

Think of all the good karma..........we may even get some wind in Sydney.

C'mon Larko.....take one for the team

cwamit said...

Na don’t go trying to say anything about his daughter, instead - touch his ass and say.. “so want to be f**k buddies”!

Problem with this is he might say yes!

Just tell him you've only got enough petrol to get home and you left your wallet at home.

Or just tell him the truth and get it over with. Tell him you need some moolah to make it worth your while coz he ain't gonna give you any thanks. Thats reasonable enough in this day and age of high fuel prices.

I just think back to when I was a kid and my parents ferried my friends and I around. Looking back it must have been a drag but I don't think any of my friends' parents were real slackarses like this bloke.