The 'sex' talk.

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Barbie
Barbie
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5 Dec 2008 8:57pm
Today my 6 year old came home from school talking about a discussion she had with some of her peers...... it was about who they were going to have sex with!!!! Holy crap!! When asked what that meant she said that it was "strip naked, get into bed and kiss" so she has been given some info..... but from WHERE??? I was totally gob-smacked!!! She said she kept saying no, which was good.
I told her she had done the right thing by telling me, and having no secrets (apparantly it was meant to be a secret), and that no one should see her naked, and that it was an inappropriate thing for children to talk about.
I thought i still had a few years before I was going to have to discuss this with my daughter!!! What is this world coming too!!!! What are other kids learning at home? or watching on tv???

advice please
Greenroom
Greenroom
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5 Dec 2008 9:03pm
When are you gonna give me the sex talk Barbs?
decrepit
decrepit
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5 Dec 2008 9:08pm
Nothing's new Barbie, even back when I was a 6year old, kids were that informed, all I can say is you had a very sheltered childhood.
Don't give the poor kid hang ups about sex, it's not evil it's natural.
Kids are very inquisitive, if adults seem to be making a secret or a big deal out of something, that makes it all the more interesting.
mytchook
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5 Dec 2008 10:22pm
About 2 months ago I went to daycare to pick up my sons. When I got there, I was pulled aside by one of the teachers who told me that my oldest son (5) and his friend (also 5) had to be separated and both be put into timeout because they were "exposing themselves" and basically "measuring/comparing" their dinkles. I was a tad upset by this (to say the least) especially with all the talk recently about young kids being accused of sexual assault at daycare centres and in primary schools.

When we got home my husband spoke to my son and told him that what he was doing was wrong and he could get into very big trouble for doing things like that.

And now, Just recently, my youngest (2), has started to try and put his "doodle" on us whenever he gets out of the shower. As funny as it is (because he runs around the house holding himself and yelling out "doodle") we are trying to stop this kind of behaviour.

Unfortunately Barbie, I am guessing this is all just part of growing up. And these days anyway, kids seem to be growing up too fast.

My only advice to you would be to just let your daughter know that she can talk to you (like you seem to already be doing) and just instill strong morals in her.

Good Luck..... this is the kind of thing that makes me glad I have two boys.
Dawn Patrol
Dawn Patrol
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1991 posts
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5 Dec 2008 9:53pm
I think i got "the talk" in yr 2 or 3. So thats 6,7 or 8yrs old about. It must be a weird conversation for a parent to have. But i guess its probably better than them finding out off the tv, or off some friend of theirs, and getting it all confused about whats right/wrong etc.

mytchook said...
...oth be put into timeout because they were "exposing themselves" and basically "measuring/comparing" their dinkles.


Sooo did your boy win?
evlPanda
evlPanda
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6 Dec 2008 12:34am
Sounds like kids being kids to me.

I found my dad's Playboy stash when I was about 7 and HOLEY SMOKES!!!
I'm normal.

SPeaking of normal/not normal anybody watching this show on SBS about women who fall in love with objects? Objects like bridges or fences or trucks and amusement park rides. I am watching a woman passionately kiss a fence in her bedroom. Serious. There's another married to the berlin wall.

That is weird (and amusing).
mytchook
mytchook
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5 Dec 2008 11:36pm
Not Sure DP....... I just grabbed my kids and got them hme pretty quickly. (I was a bit embarrassed by the whole thing)

I think however, my Husband asked (to try and cheer my son up because he was getting really upset)
getfunky
getfunky
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8 Dec 2008 11:38am
Sheesh Barbie - that is a bit of a worry. Not because of the curiosity or even the low age but more the competitive and sneaky angle that one of the peers has created. Geez 6 is young though.

No doubt the kid(s) that have fostered this behaviour are the 'alpha' kids and most likely have older siblings so have been exposed to a fair bit more of this stuff so far. Pretty hard to avoid (or find the source) these sort of things.

Best bet is to get the nipper into kiting so they don't think about anything else
GreenPat
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8 Dec 2008 1:22pm
mytchook said...

About 2 months ago I went to daycare to pick up my sons. When I got there, I was pulled aside by one of the teachers who told me that my oldest son (5) and his friend (also 5) had to be separated and both be put into timeout because they were "exposing themselves" and basically "measuring/comparing" their dinkles. I was a tad upset by this (to say the least) especially with all the talk recently about young kids being accused of sexual assault at daycare centres and in primary schools.


Funny that, I was also five when the display of my 'dinkle' was a requirement to join the cool gang under the fort at pre-school. I distinctly remember not feeling comfortable about the idea and as a result not being allowed membership of the gang. I remember the ringleader though, and we became good friends about 15 years later. He turned out perfectly normal, as did I.
getfunky
getfunky
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8 Dec 2008 1:03pm
GreenPat said...
Funny that, I was also five when the display of my 'dinkle' was a requirement to join the cool gang under the fort at pre-school. I distinctly remember not feeling comfortable about the idea and as a result not being allowed membership of the gang. I remember the ringleader though, and we became good friends about 15 years later. He turned out perfectly normal, as did I.




Er.. sure that wasn't the WAKSA board voting process was it?


actiomax
actiomax
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10 Dec 2008 1:00am
evil panda my uncle gave me his entire stash to burn when i was 12 apparently I'm not normal because that nostalgia trip makes me want to see hair understand now kids are born adult ?? have no attention span teach ,them talk to them straight & explain will its a funny adult joke they are not up for that yet then show them a coin trick & i bet that's what they will be bursting to show there friends the next day
alexb
alexb
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30 posts
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11 Dec 2008 11:19am
when you get to 6 years of age, you start thinking that you didn't come from a cabbage and have to find out where you must come from..
NotWal
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11 Dec 2008 2:09pm
evlPanda said...

Sounds like kids being kids to me.

I found my dad's Playboy stash when I was about 7 and HOLEY SMOKES!!!
I'm normal.

SPeaking of normal/not normal anybody watching this show on SBS about women who fall in love with objects? Objects like bridges or fences or trucks and amusement park rides. I am watching a woman passionately kiss a fence in her bedroom. Serious. There's another married to the berlin wall.

That is weird (and amusing).


Well thanks for nothin EP. You don't know how disturbing it is to realise you're having less luck than a fence post.
Mobydisc
Mobydisc
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11 Dec 2008 10:35pm
evlPanda said...

Sounds like kids being kids to me.

I found my dad's Playboy stash when I was about 7 and HOLEY SMOKES!!!
I'm normal.

SPeaking of normal/not normal anybody watching this show on SBS about women who fall in love with objects? Objects like bridges or fences or trucks and amusement park rides. I am watching a woman passionately kiss a fence in her bedroom. Serious. There's another married to the berlin wall.

That is weird (and amusing).


I watched a bit of that show. How weird was it? Only women feel this way to objects. At the time I was thinking I really love my Tabou boards but I don't love them THAT way. One of them married the Eiffel Tower and had sex with it. Another one was kissing and stroking the Empire State Building till a security guard told her to get lost. It takes all sorts.

arancini
arancini
WA
373 posts
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12 Dec 2008 9:50am
Yeah I watched a bit of that to, I thought it was a comedy at first as it was so serious, the large women who fell in love with the show machine, a large mechanical swinging beast in Germany that swings people into the air, got me, she explained it was its shape, its sound, and its beauty that had her hooked, she also remarked how she wanted to expereinces its "juices" which she proceded to do while licking a weeping grease nipple and smearing the grease over her face and body. She climaxed. While this was being filmed her friend, (another objectionist sexual) had found a fence that she fancied and proceeded to hump it. Strange stuff.
getfunky
getfunky
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4485 posts
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12 Dec 2008 11:32am
What's not to love?

Their objects of affection always stand to attention, never leave them, never bring home other objects, self lubricate, etc etc..

Nah... that's just some whickidy whakedy sh!t there my good man!?

Like to see the lady attempt to get her fence/partner onto the work crissy party river cruise though!! Could be handy for the limbo though?

Bl00dy SBS always show these engrossing (and some times gross) docos after nighty night time. They are mostly fascinating and just when you are ready for the land of nod, they grab you - then 2 hrs later you are educated in the (bizarre) ways of the world but ultimately 2 hrs short of kip! Grrr...[}:)]
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