If you go into control panel
and go to Automatic Updates
open that and click
turn off automatic updates...
then once a week or so you go
to the same place control panel
Automatic updates and go to the line that says install updates from the web
it will take you to the Microsoft web site and you will see all the updates it has for you
untick the ones you don't want and see if it will update...
Sometimes this can go astray because some of the updates are inter woven with the ones you might say no to..
God I hope that makes sense