Sounds pretty bad and I strongly recommend you seek professional medical advice. I would start with a sports physio. They will do a basic posture/alignment check and look for obvious causes of your back pains, which could me a number of things really...there is no guarantee they will find the cause/solution and may refer you to other specialist for further examination.
I broke my spine when I was younger and this weakened my lower back. I made full recovery but still had a weaker back until I trained hard to strengthen it in the gym. Made all the difference and my back is now the strongest part of my body. In kitesurfing the back muscles are probably the most solicited and at the highest intensity as well, and therefore it should be the strongest.
But don't start training until you get checked out and find the cause of your pain.
Here' some light reading to get your started :
physioworks.com.au/Injuries-Conditions/Regions/lower_back_pain Christian