ok basically i dont know if you remember about 3 months ago i said my girlfriend and i broke up, well ive got a real chance of getting my family back, But its going to take a few sacrificies i am more than happy to make if it means i get them back. I need to sell my toys, mainly for the reason as we have nearly no money behind us and i need to be more responsible about things and get us in position to buy a house.. basically i need to grow up now here is what ive got to sell i know this is usually frowned apon advertising in the forum but im hoping this is a special case.. i understand laurie if its not :)

2010 9m north vegas black and white used literally once last friday sell for $1400

2008 9m hadlow pro 5 line set up with 6 line conversion still in perfect nick no damage or repairs $700

and the big one my baby yamaha r6 99 grey and black roo racer exhust sounds ohh just beautiful and so very very fast $5300 now this is stuff ive bought in the last 6 months or so and im selling a lot cheaper than i bought i really need the money asap so if you have the need for any off the above please pm me
and WOOO HOO!! dont ever EVER take your family for granted its the most amazing thing you will ever have in your life!

thanks guy

ben

She doesnt seem worth it. What is she giving up selling all her jewellery, shoes car? Who wants a house you her? There is nothing like making a 30 year financial comitment with some one that has allready left you once. Must be love because no one can understand that when looking in from the outside.

I hope all works out well.

Hi Ben,

Approach this one with plenty of objective consideration. I think losing the bike is a good idea, you're a family man now in any case. As for losing the kites, you are a manically energetic guy and I suggest you need an outlet for your energy and a place to go to be able to chill and recharge the batteries. For what you'll get for the kites, it is worth more than that to you as an emotional/physical outlet for when you need to unwind.

It's only going to put about $7000 in your bank, what will happen when the money runs out? Will she leave again? She left once and now knows that that stunt gets action from you it could end up that you become a slave to the whims of your woman. If she doesn't love you enough in the first place to try and make it work without splitting and taking your kid, how confident are you that she's not going to bolt if a better offer comes along.

I've traveled to many third world countries and you know what? Love exists even in poverty. Money in the bank and a nice house/car etc will not make the relationship work if there is a deeper problem in the first place.

Having said that though, she is right to a degree, you should start acting responsibly as a provider for her and the little one. It is time to grow up.

Jump into the shoes of a third party and look at your relationship from the eyes of someone else, ie remove the emotional part of it, so you can get a clearer picture of the entire relationship and the pluses and minuses. Clear your head, search your soul and listen to your intuition. Your inner voices first thoughts are usually correct.

Be brave mate and think it all through. Whatever your decision, I'm sure it will be the best decision for you at that time.

Best of luck,

KH

Kitehard said...

Hi Ben,

Approach this one with plenty of objective consideration. I think losing the bike is a good idea, you're a family man now in any case. As for losing the kites, you are a manically energetic guy and I suggest you need an outlet for your energy and a place to go to be able to chill and recharge the batteries. For what you'll get for the kites, it is worth more than that to you as an emotional/physical outlet for when you need to unwind.

It's only going to put about $7000 in your bank, what will happen when the money runs out? Will she leave again? She left once and now knows that that stunt gets action from you it could end up that you become a slave to the whims of your woman. If she doesn't love you enough in the first place to try and make it work without splitting and taking your kid, how confident are you that she's not going to bolt if a better offer comes along.

I've traveled to many third world countries and you know what? Love exists even in poverty. Money in the bank and a nice house/car etc will not make the relationship work if there is a deeper problem in the first place.

Having said that though, she is right to a degree, you should start acting responsibly as a provider for her and the little one. It is time to grow up.

Jump into the shoes of a third party and look at your relationship from the eyes of someone else, ie remove the emotional part of it, so you can get a clearer picture of the entire relationship and the pluses and minuses. Clear your head, search your soul and listen to your intuition. Your inner voices first thoughts are usually correct.

Be brave mate and think it all through. Whatever your decision, I'm sure it will be the best decision for you at that time.

Best of luck,

KH

^^^ sounds like good advice, but you know what, it wouldn't hurt for the both of you to go see a professional counsellor together to get that objectivity on both sides.

As the age old addage goes,.. when the money runs out , the woman soon follows

thanks guys seriously nothing NOTHING is more important to me than my family i have no problem parting with my material things. If i can sell the bike for enough i may be able to keep the vegas but im really not worried if that sells. Im an instructor so i always have other kits i can use and if things are better off for us in the near future i can just buy the kite again but right now with having a few weeks off work over chrissie my direct debit system that i use charging the wrong person for 4 months and then taking the money out of my account and my house mate being about 2 weeks late with his rent and bills im basically skint and need the cash like right now and i desperatly need savings so this type of thing doesnt happen again! like i said time to grow up and i dont think what she is asking is unreasonable and like i said family first!

I don't think you've thought this throught too well, but shortly you'll run out of things to sell when you start having to pay off your mortgage.

Hey mate been there with different sport . It didnt go too well sold all gear and sat at home and felt like crap inside . Dont sell it all keep one dont use it for a while i will bet come 4 to 5 weeks you will get it out . EVERYONE needs and out let some thing anything too get your mind straight again even the wife needs an outlet seriously . Take a break do lots for her and ask for some time too go kiting .

happy home, happy days beleive me

OK this might be helpful

I have been happily married almost 20 years .We've had plenty of ups and downs .We have 3 teenage girls who are a handful (they mean everything to us ). We encourage and support each other to follow our dreams and passions .We have individual lives and support each other and come together on some but not all interests .My partner has NEVER given me any ultimatums and I know how far I can push and pursue my own individual pursuits that make me part of the person that I am .(My partner did 6 years of night study in a degree that she didn't pursue professionally while I fed and looked after and changed the ****ty nappies of the grommets ,I bear no Ill will {tho I do occasionally raise it in a heated discussion} I ,nor she is a thumbprint. My parents have a similar story until my dad died from cancer . I have learn't how to earn and spend Brownie points

Over to you

Morg said...

, getting loose, gambling and lighting strippers cigars with 100 dollar notes etc.

What are you...American?

Morg said...

I don't know about the rest of you blokes but I've saved money since starting to kite. yeah 2k a year for a kite may seem like a lot to some chicks but it's the 10's of thousands a year i'm not spending on **** to keep me occupied that makes it seem like a good investment. Before kiting it was all about going out, getting loose, gambling and lighting strippers cigars with 100 dollar notes etc. But now it's just early nights so I'm not to rooted for a kite the next day. (i miss the strippers the most but it's worth it).

Pffft, what a lightweight - my idea of decadence is surrounding myself with Venezuelan Miss World wannabes whilst having midgets serve me up Cocaine from solid gold plates mounted on their heads.

Some excellent advice and perspectives above. This forum does inspire me now and then.

I have to say I think keeping one kite and board is not extravagant. It will provide an important outlet, as well as having symbolic value as an indicator of your retained individuality, sitting alongside the symbols of the sacrifices that you make for the relationship.

Also, seeing a skilled counsellor (and how to find a really good one is itself a journey) to talk through the new arrangements would likely be a very worthwhile move.

Are you familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs? en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs

Whilst it has had its critics, my experience as a people-helper is that it can be a useful tool in thinking about priorities. Taking care of the basic stuff first enables the higher pleasures to be enjoyed more fully, rather than with guilt. In some ways this is common sense, but for myself and some clients it is very useful to map the ways in which we meet our basic needs and those of the people close to us. Is anything missing, either for you and your partner individually, or for the two of you as a unit? Is the distribution of need-meeting equitable? Is it sustainable? Are there needs you haven't acknowledged or addressed so far?

Balance, balance, balance. Keep it dynamic, keep it in process. Check in with yourselves and each other regularly. Have time for closeness, and time for space. Stay present to what's happening in the moment, and new understandings and possibilities are sure to emerge.

Even better, with midget lesbians on stripper poles!

We have those here in SA. They do a double act!!

I could tell a good story about Bridget the Midget and Tiny Tina but I don't think it would be appropriate for this forum!!!

well u guys r right decided to keep the vegas still trying to sell everything else now all i need is some actual time im not working or spending time with her and the baby to go for a ride :)

FlySurfer said...



At least with kiting you can check the weather; with women u never know what u gona get, but it's usually gusty.

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hah ha ha

...at last count I had 4 kids (between 13 and 1yo)....

...and 5 kites (between 12m and 4m)....

so my scientific conclusion is always have at least one more kite than you have children.

and remember......you always gotta pay to play.....