I don't get why it came down to deciding between a relationship or kiting? I kite 3-4 times a week and have an awesome girlfriend who I see 3-4 times a week and it works fine.
Kiting keeps me fit, healthy, tanned and excited about life so she supports my addiction and understands if I have to suddenly catch the wind, even if we have plans. Ive been teaching her on my 2m training kite and now she loves cranking one handed kite loops on it. Now its time to get here some big kite lessons.
I suspect you are one of those high maintenance, needy girls who always wants it her way (not saying you are). If so, I suggest you lighten up, stop over thinking everything so much, give your guy some room to move and see how much better it feels to be in an equal, trusting relationship with the feeling of fun, freedom and wind in your hair!