Definately dont under inflate you kite!! That makes your kite fly like a turd (handling, water re-launch, jellyfishing ect)..
Most kites will have some velcro and elastic loop to put over the dump valve, check you have this or see if you can use a zip tie (make sure you have something to open them with at the end of your session), this will stop it from just popping out if you have a crash, also make sure you've properly pushed the plug in, its easy to forget to check this when your excited to go out for a sesh!
With practice you'll stop slamming the kite down (at least not has hard)..well untill you start going for new tricks then you start all over again