Hhhhmmmm Cisco
such a wise soul,,,,,,,,,,,,,however, not sure whether I would ever choose to sail with you

. Especially as a gal LOL!
In a former life I sailed for a long time aboard a Canadian Alberg 34. Similar lines and seakindly capabilities to an S&S 34, however, probably twice the room.
She was such a sweety on all points of sail. No pounding to windward, well-mannered running downhill (unlike many of your favoured IOR boats, Cisco), no-fuss masthead rig (unlike many of your old IORs with busy fractional rigs and all that running backstay nonsense[}:)] )and despite her long integrated keel, very manoeuvrable getting into marina berths.
Now that life is different and I have a crew of little people to consider, plus a hubby who wouldn't/couldn't cope with cruising in such tight confines as an Alberg 34 or the Cal 34 that we sold (boo, hoo, another gorgeous girl!!), would have to be much bigger to accommodate them and their 'stuff'.
If money was not so much of an issue as it is in reality, I would choose something in aluminium. A no-fuss, honest boat with minimal gadgetry..............less 'stuff' to inevitably break down. Van de Stadt Samoa 47 for the mono side or an Easton 47 for the multi team.

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The reality is sticking to our Crowther Eureka ....a repower from the clapped out Isuzu diesel to 2 x Yamaha 9.9s...........new main and genoa..........scoops on the transoms. After all, a good-enough boat is better than no boat at all.