Looked at building my own and found that to be really hard and not cost effective - parts from all over the world and the pump is very expensive. Best (IMO) is to go to someone who has already done it and is making many - get benefits of multiple unit pricing from suppliers.
After considerable searching, found this manufacturer:-
www.cruiserowaterandpower.com/VERY helpful people and I bought a 30 GPH unit - which works like a charm, produces lots of sweet soft water and is built with quality components.
It's manual operation and simple, with no proprietary parts.