Krisiz1, Firstly, you have'nt forgotten how to gybe, you just have'nt done it for a while. This for married people has the obvious connotation.
Secondly, 1969? realisticly if it's a reciprocal relationship, what thought have they put into your personal wellbeing in the last 41 years?
Now if it's family, then the term probate comes to mind.




Go for a sail and if they're there when you get back, they must want something!