Just grow some balls and tell her what you think and what your going to do! Let her know that windsurfing made you the man you are now!

lets us know how it goes?

AusMoz said..
Just grow some balls and tell her what you think and what your going to do! Let her know that windsurfing made you the man you are now!

lets us know how it goes?

Yeah, good suggestion. You won't need those enlarged balls after that.

joe windsurf said..
does everyone fit in the car/van ?
take em all to the beach for fun n sun !!!

I live 100m from the beach. When its good windsurfing weather, its bad on the beach. Sadly the two don't mix.

really just do what i did get wife who understands it wont be there fault its the wind gods .

Sputnik11 said..

joe windsurf said..
does everyone fit in the car/van ?
take em all to the beach for fun n sun !!!

When its good windsurfing weather, its bad on the beach. Sadly the two don't mix.

Yep, on a good NEer, it's nice for all as you rig up in the morning.
Then the wind picks up, they get sans in the eyes, that sort of stuff, and all hell breaks loose.

I tried a few times, to no avail, "well, we had an hour together, was fun huh?"
or "you had your fun, go home with the kids and pick me up later".

fabulon31 said..
Saterday morning, take daughter to gymnastics class and then go and do the weekly shopping with my son. After doing the shopping I pick up my daughter from gymnastics then go home to unpack everything and get lunch ready. While I'm doing all this my wife has ballet classes. She gets back at about 1 and I'm off, if there is wind.
Sunday morning my wife goes to the gym. I look after the kids and after lunch I'm free to go.
The key is to find a hobby for your wife and encourage it (Also keeps her looking great).
More often than not there's no wind so I just end up doing all the other stuff. I am under the thumb a bit but the wife is a pretty cool chick and I enjoy doing stuff with my kids (Maybe not with the boy).

Its the hobby bit that's critical. I do all of the above, but she doesn't have a hobby or a class to go to. So there's ballet (not a hope in hell), gym (not likely)......what else? She's not really into shopping. What other hobbies could I suggest?

Sputnik11 said..
What other hobbies could I suggest?

Pick up a short course pamphlet from your local tafe, have a browse and say "what courses would you do?" Listen, encourage and don't laugh. Even if doing an actual course is not an option, you might get an insight into what interests her. There must be something that she always wanted to try.

Always keep gear in car, go sailing after work and say you had to work back. Remember to change back into work clothes after sail.
Weekends, a bit if yard work or if your a total walk over like me, laundry in the morning usually gets Fun Pass granted.

Rohypnol

Just remember to remove all sunscreen and try to appear grumpy as you have had a bad day at work. Don't forget to wash your face as salt on one's lips is a giveaway as well.

Sputnik11 said..

fabulon31 said..
Saterday morning, take daughter to gymnastics class and then go and do the weekly shopping with my son. After doing the shopping I pick up my daughter from gymnastics then go home to unpack everything and get lunch ready. While I'm doing all this my wife has ballet classes. She gets back at about 1 and I'm off, if there is wind.
Sunday morning my wife goes to the gym. I look after the kids and after lunch I'm free to go.
The key is to find a hobby for your wife and encourage it (Also keeps her looking great).
More often than not there's no wind so I just end up doing all the other stuff. I am under the thumb a bit but the wife is a pretty cool chick and I enjoy doing stuff with my kids (Maybe not with the boy).

Its the hobby bit that's critical. I do all of the above, but she doesn't have a hobby or a class to go to. So there's ballet (not a hope in hell), gym (not likely)......what else? She's not really into shopping. What other hobbies could I suggest?

From a windsurfing wife (husband does not windsurf) and mother of late teens- (but I still remember that difficult baby and toddler stage)
What Mums of young kids really want is a relaxing break from the kids every now and then, just like you do. It doesn't matter if she has a hobby or not. If you take the kids out or even occupy them at home (which doesn't mean letting them run riot while you watch TV) so she can have a rest/ read/ even catch up on housework undisturbed, she will be most appreciative and should not resent you taking some time out to do what you love. Have a chat with your wife about it. Tell her how much you miss your sailing and work out an arrangement which will suit you both. Don't just take on extra chores and expect her to notice and make the connection with you wanting time off. When you come home, be happy - don't complain about what a crap session it was with no wind, kiters galore etc - otherwise she'll wonder why she made the sacrifice.
Enjoy spending time with your kids. They are gorgeous and loveable and even more of a joy than windsurfing but every bit as tiring! When they are young is your big chance to really get to know and enjoy them. You really only have until they are about 10 or 12 to spend quality time with them and share your wisdom and points of view with them. After that they will be preferring to spend time with their friends and won't want to listen to what you have to say. If you want a good relationship with them when they are older the groundwork starts now.

Here are a few things that work for me.

- Take wife and kids to beach whenever possible. Find somewhere out of the wind for wife to sit with a book and a beer. Little kids need plenty of open space to run and play without 100% supervision. Teenagers can be left at home or taught to sail.
- Work away from home. Anytime not working can be spent sailing without infringing on family time. And if you get your fix while away you will have . Work to be windy and close to water for this idea to prevail.
- Educate wifey on the importance of sea breezes and there timing during a day/year. Family days at the beach are a lot nicer in Autumn/Winter and early Spring. In Summer go to the beach early in the day with the family. And once the family is puffed out and at home relaxed head out for a sail. Bring home a nice Sav Blaunc for wifey and all will be good
- If there is a family(in-law) function you must attend. A few gentle reminders of what you should be doing is encouraged. A hissy fit with bad behaviour will get you nowhere.
- Always be home for the kids/wifes important stuff. And find out what is important.
- And if you are going to be 10 mins late home you may as well be 2hrs late. Same amount of punishment will be handed out but you will have had more fun to deserve it.
- Use long range forecasts to your advantage. Plan work/family time around the forecast where possible.
- Any browny points accumulated can easily be washed away with a slip of the tongue. Be very careful.

And just a couple of useful tips.

- All your sails to be the same colour. A couple of little numbers on the sail will mean nothing as long as they all look the same.

- An old board cover can smuggle a new board into the shed easily.

Yes those are wise words Windxtasy. As a father of 2 under 4, its hard for everyone to get a break.

Good to see some humour in the threads though.