Dezman said..
Its not that I'm a 'bad' Person it's just a rage inside, a self protection mechanism from nature Maybe.
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You're right, not a bad person, but one to be careful around.
Until the critical triggers are tripped, they can be the nicest, and 'most fun' people.
But if a trigger is tripped, the situation can change in an instant.
If you know the person well, you can be careful to avoid the situations which you know could result in an explosion, but even then, they still happen.
The other thing is, they tend to be directed against people they know well and think they can get away with it on, rather than with someone they don't know, like a police officer or someone similar. That indicates that they can control it if they really have to but lack the incentive to do so around people they should least inflict it on.
Around strangers, they simply don't let themselves get close to the edge. They redirect things before it reaches the stage where they can no longer control it.
With famliar people, they feel they can edge closer to the trigger point, and then rescue the situation at the last second, but they rarely can.
Having passed a certain point they are then incapable of stepping back from the inevitable, and the stuation turns suddenly sour,.. very sour.
The answer is, never, just NEVER let yourself get close to a situation which you know could result in an explosion.
It's nothing to just shake your head and leave, no last word, no quick comeback, no parting verbal slap.
If the situation ends in an explosion then you can consider that's one confrontation wich you severely lost, and the damage lasts very much longer than just losing the argumentnever would have.
I say all this inr elation to Pistofficus.
He is not unique, but he is uncommon.
The fact that Pistofficus did this to his girlfriend of long standing is consistent with this.
I doubt he would have done it to someone he met the previous week even if he felt he same way about her.
He had everything. Now he has nothing.
All for what? The sake of one momentary petty disagreement!
What a waste!