Kiting vs girlfriend

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chop_slop_surfer
chop_slop_surfer
WA
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4 Feb 2008 8:49am
My girlfriend is not a kiter and I'm afraid she just does not understand the situation kiters are in....

Kiting is awesome but, unlike a game of cricket or tennis (or to a lesser extent surfing), you just can't schedule a session for when it suits you. You need wind, and when it comes you have to go because it may not be back for a while.

My missus says to me, 'why don't you go for a kite now'? Well, it's 8am and raining, and not a breath of wind, that's why! I need wind which usually comes up in the afternoon as a result of inland heat.

I want to know if I'm alone on this issue? How do other kiters handle their partners? How do you make them understand?

Cheers
bigmark100
bigmark100
NSW
584 posts
NSW, 584 posts
4 Feb 2008 11:32am
most kiters have this problem, and if your girl/partner doesnt kite - and hence understand, then it takes a very special person to put up with it.
But it takes time (well in my case anywway) for them to understand ...... but now we have a good understanding - and its never an issue anymore.

It helps if they have their own hobby/interest so that you can comprimise, ie you are happy to do things they want to do without fuss , (unless its windy of course).
If they really like art - then take them to a gallery, do things that make them happy when its not windy.....
Ocassionally - you must jut bite the bullet and agree to do something - and dont even look at the wind - i know its hard...

If you relationship can survive one person being a kiter - then it can survive many things.....


harrytesties
harrytesties
133 posts
133 posts
4 Feb 2008 9:59am
i think its your own fault for letting her out from under the stairs long enough for her to complain.....
Dawn Patrol
Dawn Patrol
WA
1991 posts
WA, 1991 posts
4 Feb 2008 10:33am
I dont know how you guys can put up with it. Just go kiting, plenty more women out there, and some know how to kite.
Or, you can train her for you. Get her to inflate kite, set up kite, launch kite, land kite, pack up kite (after she brings you a cold beer) ,make a picnic for after kite, take you home and tell you how good you kite. If only......
Saffer
Saffer
VIC
4501 posts
VIC, 4501 posts
4 Feb 2008 12:36pm
I found that after I put my wife's hand on a hot stove every time she complained, she stopped complaining. Worked for me, keen to try it on my kids next when they cry but my wife got a restraining order now so I won't be able to.

DISCLAIMER - The above is a parody and meant to be humorous. Any similarity to how some people actually treat their wives is purely co-incidence and those who attempt this should be beaten severely and castrated.
Sky Hook
Sky Hook
VIC
36 posts
VIC, 36 posts
4 Feb 2008 1:06pm
It's all about the Brownie Points Chop Chop...Rack em Up!
mrbonk
mrbonk
NSW
483 posts
NSW, 483 posts
4 Feb 2008 1:32pm
No, you're not alone. No, you'll never make her understand.

Realistically, you've only got 2 options. Either give her the flick and go kiting whenever you want, or stick around and get used to compromising.

I'm sure it's an extremely selfish attitude to have, but I won't compromise. As far as I'm concerned, life's too short to spend it being p!ssed off because you can't do what you want.

If you're with someone who doesn't share your passions or isn't prepared to allow you to indulge them, perhaps you're with the wrong person.
Adz
Adz
WA
120 posts
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WA, 120 posts
4 Feb 2008 11:58am
Its much easier to beg for forgivness than to ask permission! My wife now accepts she is a kite widow from October through to March...
superlizard
superlizard
VIC
702 posts
VIC, 702 posts
4 Feb 2008 2:08pm
the question is how do you get rid of the guilt feeling...
portable can
portable can
QLD
15 posts
QLD, 15 posts
4 Feb 2008 1:20pm
I am stuck in the same situation now schools just started back up again thank god its the last year . anyway and i dont have much time on my hands .. and ofcourse i just happen to play sport on saterday and only have sunday free. She doesnt live close enough to see on a school day so that only leaves sunday.

Im trying to get as much heads up as i can with the wind and if its good i'll just force myself to tell her the good news KITING but if the wind is not good i'll spend the day with her.

The only problem with that is shes going to get sick of it and want to break up soon.

for kiting, thats a sacrifice im willing to make

right choice ?
Adz
Adz
WA
120 posts
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WA, 120 posts
4 Feb 2008 12:20pm
Guilt is just the feeling you get on the way to the beach...passes once you see the wind is howling, the water is smooth, its not too crowded, nice girl in bikini waiting to launch your kite, you pull off that new trick that all the pro's will take until next season to master....Wait...what where we talking about again?
pynnee
pynnee
WA
164 posts
WA, 164 posts
4 Feb 2008 12:20pm
I go before my anoying half has a chance to tell me why i shouldnt, then when i get home and she is not happy i can turn it back on her for not communicating... works a treat and you normally get a sorry r**t afterwards. what a perfect day they are :)
echostorm
echostorm
QLD
1245 posts
QLD, 1245 posts
4 Feb 2008 1:45pm
just tell her you need it to kite to function normally, keep yourself fit and stop depression. Without kiting you will be depressed and moping around the house, you need it to fill that empty space in your soul in a way another person never can. Make sure you still get all your jobs done around the house when you get back and even cook her dinner or give her a massage for letting you out.

I used to have your problem and by doing the above it totally rectified it. I even weened her off the dinner/massage part. My missus actually encourages me to go kiting now... well she did until I damaged my legs

"A happy wife = A happy life"

p.s. the next time she says "why dont you go kite now" and its not windy then reply with, "there is no windy honey why dont we go and do something together now and I will kite later"

Just takes training mate.
mrbonk
mrbonk
NSW
483 posts
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4 Feb 2008 3:09pm
superlizard said...

the question is how do you get rid of the guilt feeling...


Get rid of the cause.
mrbonk
mrbonk
NSW
483 posts
NSW, 483 posts
4 Feb 2008 3:11pm
echostorm said...

I even weened her off the dinner/massage part.


Hah! Until she reads this, then you'll be changing your name to Sven and spending your spare time reading cook books
mrbonk
mrbonk
NSW
483 posts
NSW, 483 posts
4 Feb 2008 3:16pm
portable can said...

The only problem with that is shes going to get sick of it and want to break up soon.

for kiting, thats a sacrifice im willing to make

right choice ?


It's like I keep saying.....if she doesn't understand, she's not 'the one'. Besides, you're still in school....the last thing you need at this stage is a 'serious relationship'
Kitehard
Kitehard
WA
2782 posts
WA, 2782 posts
4 Feb 2008 1:46pm
Hey CSS,

I reckon you just dump her, Kiting will be with you long after she has been and gone. Kiting leaves you with that same worn out all over feeling and once you are done with your kite, you can lock it in the garage until the next time you feel like a ride. No hassle, no guilt, no permission required. Either that or you get yourself a girlfriend who kites.

Puyt it to the current girlie, either learn to kite and play with you when the wind blows, or nick off! If she stays with you and learns to kite, it's all good, if she leaves, no great loss as it never would have worked out anyways. My advice to you is never try and change who you are to suit someone else, you will eventually need to return to who you really are and then it will be over and you may lose half your house (Speaking from previous experience).

Other reasons to dump your girlie:

Your girlfriend will never spank you as hard as your kite will or if she does, I really must meet her [}:)]

A kite is a once off purchase price,the girlfriend is an ongoing expense that escalates with time.

You can use anyone elses kite and not get grief from your current kite. You can admire any other kite at all and talk about other kites with your mates without your kite getting the sh1ts.

You can retire and upgrade your old kite whenever you want and ignore or sell your old kite with no feeling of guilt.

If you ride your kite hard and long enough, you wont have the energy or the will to ride your girlfriend anyways.

Hope this helps,

Kitehard
Kitehard
WA
2782 posts
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4 Feb 2008 1:47pm
mrbonk said...

superlizard said...

the question is how do you get rid of the guilt feeling...


Get rid of the cause.


CLASSIC! ROFL

sburlo
sburlo
NT
166 posts
NT, 166 posts
4 Feb 2008 3:06pm
Would like to give you advice, but my wife is looking over my shoulder.
kiterdan
kiterdan
WA
680 posts
WA, 680 posts
4 Feb 2008 2:41pm
Try hitting her.
mrbonk
mrbonk
NSW
483 posts
NSW, 483 posts
4 Feb 2008 4:45pm
kiterdan said...

Try hitting her.


Err..... you're not presently 'attached' I gather? If so, I feel sorry for her.....
Adz
Adz
WA
120 posts
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4 Feb 2008 2:48pm
kiterdan said...

Try hitting her.


Softly on the bottom, while wearing some sexy nickers...and then post the video here![}:)]
richswing
richswing
WA
724 posts
WA, 724 posts
4 Feb 2008 2:59pm
Use a brick,

it doesn't hirt

as long as you keep your fingers out the way!
kiterdan
kiterdan
WA
680 posts
WA, 680 posts
4 Feb 2008 3:02pm
No no, that's not very nice. I just got her into kiting instead. Easy done. And no criminal charges either!
puppetonastring
puppetonastring
WA
3619 posts
WA, 3619 posts
4 Feb 2008 3:10pm
portable can said...

for kiting, thats a sacrifice im willing to make

right choice ?


if you can make that choice then its defintely the right one.
for any reason.
peanuticus
peanuticus
NSW
341 posts
NSW, 341 posts
4 Feb 2008 5:14pm
chop_slop_surfer said...

My girlfriend is not a kiter and I'm afraid she just does not understand the situation kiters are in....

Kiting is awesome but, unlike a game of cricket or tennis (or to a lesser extent surfing), you just can't schedule a session for when it suits you. You need wind, and when it comes you have to go because it may not be back for a while.

My missus says to me, 'why don't you go for a kite now'? Well, it's 8am and raining, and not a breath of wind, that's why! I need wind which usually comes up in the afternoon as a result of inland heat.

I want to know if I'm alone on this issue? How do other kiters handle their partners? How do you make them understand?

Cheers


selfish tw*t....
user
user
WA
1140 posts
WA, 1140 posts
4 Feb 2008 3:29pm
Some miserable advice being given here !

You don't need to dump her.

Just be sure of yourself,and your right to go kiting when you like.

Just go.

If she doesn't handle it ,she will leave.

Or,she may adjust to the quality time to herself. Shopping,yoga and meditation,watching "chick" movies,visiting Mum etc.
CRAZYTAXI
CRAZYTAXI
WA
45 posts
WA, 45 posts
4 Feb 2008 4:08pm


Kiting is - fitness, endurance and endorfins,

Endorfins are the wonderful happy chemicals that float around in your brain after a good session. (which is what you are addicted to)

Its unbelivable how much nicer, happier, excitable or more productive and cooperative people (men especially) are after a good dose of endorfins.!!

You just have to share that happiness and make that side of you more desirable than the boring grumpy nonkiting 'you'.
Poida
Poida
WA
1922 posts
WA, 1922 posts
4 Feb 2008 4:22pm
It was when I left the inlaws house on christmas day (I promised to be back before the meal - I didnt have any kids then) to go sailing that they all finally realised it was a lost cause asking any questions why. gradual and continual disappointment is one technique that sets a trend that may or may not be accepted in the end as reallity.



elizabethb
elizabethb
QLD
2081 posts
QLD, 2081 posts
4 Feb 2008 5:49pm
KITEHARD... I LOVE your stuff! hahahahah

and no u are NOT alone. I think a LOT of guys go through this, but its MORE of an issue in younger couples-marriages.... SOME girls are more than happy to have that time apart and do something else while their guys kite, other girls get jealous.

Take her down there at 8am on a cloudy day and show her see NO wind. Doesn't work. She her SeaBreeze. THEN show her a 15 knot day which is marginal... show her seabreeze and that its OKAY! THEN show her a PERFECT 22knot day and the difference. At least she can understand!

OR do what I did and become single! Never looked back! 4 months single, never kited this much in my whole time kiting! The 'stoked' look I have now, screwed knee and broken rib is all SO worth it! Honestly, you're better off in the long run with a girl who kites, or just d-u-m-p her mate! Sorry 2 tell u that.

My solution....
-She HAS to understand the terms and conditions of kiting! >see below<
-Get a girl who DOES kite.
-Get a girl who will be happy to shop etc. while you kite or doesn't want her nails or hair near wind, water or sand. [}:)]
-Stay single and ENJOY life!!!!!!!!! + THEN get a kiter babe!

Gotta love my life.,

BELOW is something which has gone around Seabreeze previous and I've actually jokingly used it... Scared off the guy completely! I knew before wasting my time at least lol


---------------------------------------------------------------------
The Wind Clause

I, the undersigned have read, understood and agreed to the following:

I will let Kiter ride as often as the wind blows and not make any plans for Kiter/Us if the wind forecast shows its gonna blow for days.

I will let Kiter out of any previous plans we mav have made if there is a chance the wind might be above 15 knots as determined on www.seabreeze.com.au, the Bureau of Meteorology or the Kiter’s own wind forecasting skills. I will never question the forecast, even if the forecast did not accurately predict the wind conditions. I will never ask Kiter to reconsider our previous plans, OR give Kiter shiite for breaking off said plans to go kiting.

I will let Kiter out of making dinner or cleaning the dishes if Kiter needs to clean kite gear, rerig, or untangle lines.

I will pick up Kiter at any downwind location at anytime if Kiter has it in Kiter’s heart to do a downwinder. I will rearrange my schedule to fit the optimal wind window for Kiter’s downwinder.

I will massage Kiter’s aching body, assist with carrying equipment, launching and landing kites, go on kitesurfing holidays to remote and rugged locations without complaint and prepare meals in order to maximise Kiter’s time on the water. I will willingly wait on windblown beaches to show my loyalty to Kiter and will show compassion when the wind is not quite right.

I WILL NEVER tell Kiter that money cannot be spent on new kite gear, equipment, or related paraphenalia, even if the money comes out of our joint account.

I WILL NEVER complain if Kiter is too tired after a day of kiting and hasn’t the energy to engage in coital tenderness. I will eagerly await when Kiter is ready to participate or simply do all the hard work for Kiter.

I will NEVER COMPLAIN that Kiter spends too much time on the water and not enough with me.

I WILL LOVE MY KITER FOR BEING A KITER and never ask Kiter to change.

I have read and understood the above statements and agree to comply fully with the bounds of this binding agreement.

In case of kiters death I will receive all assets and belongings of kiter weather it was accidental or not.

I will also be immune from prosecution if found to have tampered with kiters equipment, car brakes or any gunshot or knife related wounds to kiters body.
THIS is what he added into it lol. WRONG guy hahahahaha


Name:

Signed:

Kiter:

Signed:


This ___ day of __________, 20__


In the presence of:

Name of Witness:

Signature or Mark:


chop_slop_surfer said...

My girlfriend is not a kiter and I'm afraid she just does not understand the situation kiters are in....

My missus says to me, 'why don't you go for a kite now'? Well, it's 8am and raining, and not a breath of wind, that's why! I need wind which usually comes up in the afternoon as a result of inland heat.


INfiniDIE
INfiniDIE
WA
478 posts
WA, 478 posts
4 Feb 2008 4:58pm
Buy a kite with boobs. Problem Solver-ed
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