Last weekend I got my ass KICKED completely by this kite.

It would frequently fold over itself and drop outof the sky, sometimes fly backwards, sometimes absolutely impossible to relaunch, and other times would not turn.... Ok sure, so the wind was pretty light, i think around 12knots (it's a 13m kite) But I had flown it in a previous session quite fine in wind like that, I just don't know what pigtail/trim settings I had, as my friend did it up for me.
I have been looking all over the net, trying to learn which knots i should attach my lines to, eg, 1st knot, 2nd knot, or 3rd not.... and if both the front and back lines have to be on the same combination of knots... ie, 2nd/2nd, or can I do 1st/3rd ?? And would this be advisable...
Basically i would like to know, what difference will it make to the kite, depending on which pigtail knots i attach it to... And how does it all relate to the trim loop/depower strap??
When i was getting my ass kicked last weekend, i had my front lines attached to the 1st knot (the knot furthest from the kite) and my rear lines attached to the 3rd knot (the knot closest to the kite) and my depower strap/trim loop was on "full power" (ie, making the front lines as long as possible). The reason i did this, is because i felt the backlines are always quite loose making it hard to turn??, i'm not sure if i'm mistaken though. Anyone had some experience with this kite??
All help on tuning/rigging this kite would be Greatly appreciated... THANKS all!