Benny, I have a similar issue with my Top Hat and an 8 hp standard leg on a bracket.
Mine doesn't come out of the water all that much, but it does on occasion when there is too much weight forward, or an odd chop on a bar. The gear shift is done using an 18" length of poly pipe and I can reach the throttle easily. One day, I'll get around to remote controls.
Remote controls aren't that expensive, considering the alternative (inboard). You can get just gear and throttle, as well as electric start and a charging system, and you can also get hydraulic lowering if you want to go to all that trouble.
In a bay near me in Pittwater, there is a Roberts that has a duck board affair off the back and the outboard is bolted on to that. It's almost water level, and looks butt ugly, but it would be functional.
Here is what mine looks like out of the water, I can't find one with it down, but when it is down, the head just clears the surface below the gearshift. It too gets dunked, but Tohatsus are well sealed and it never gets any in under the cowling.
Michael