If it was me in the bed, I'd be hoping you had an awesome sesh and could tell me all about it... even if I couldn't hear.

Johno, reckon I would feel the same if it was me, and my lad was doing something to relax, you cant do zilch for him cept be there when needed.
Reckon if he could yarn to you, he would tell you to pizz off and get a good sail in
Life goes on mate, hope he gets better

there i finally said it mates.."pop how are you this JP talking to you, i have to tell you something i sailed a couple of times while you were asleep and i think i broke the 40kt. mark!" he understands in principle that the fast ferry does 28kts in our area...my point however is at least i got it off my chest..i'll be having coffee everynow and then at the chapel area and shucks what sailing can do whilst conversing with God my mind strays off to looking at how the wind is blowing strong and here i am checking for tomorrows wind and forecast report[}:)]add to that i'd poop in my boardies just to break even just 35kts.

Hi JP, mate I know exactly what your going through. My dad and I were super close and would windsurf together all the time. He had a lot of health problems and spent alot of time in and out of hospital and in the end palliative care.
He was booked to go on a trip to Maui with us but he fell ill and had to go into hospital a week before we were due to go. The best thing I did was spent that week just hanging out with him. He was adamant that I should go and have a great time. I ended up going to Maui but it was definatly hard getting on the plane without him. I was lucky enough to have the support of friends while we were away which made it easier. I think they were feeling the same as me.
My point is, my dad didn't want me to mope around just cause he was ill. He always wanted me to make the most of a Nor-easter. He knew I was always thinking of him. He said if couldn't enjoy it, somebody might as well.

Well Jp, just shows your human mate. You can care and have somewhat of a life too. I've been driving 1000km to Brisbane once a month the last two months to spendtime with a bro who's in hosp too and appreciates the time and visits, but I always pack my sailing gear and get a few sails in on the way or around Bris if the winds up. I too had a pang of guilt while blasting around Redcliffe while I 'should' be doing my civic duty. In the end you have to look afer yourself to be able to show that inner glow of lifeliness! That will be more appreciated. I'm sure your stories will make the ol fella proud.

everyone does make sense and am rearing to make time tomorrow early in the a.m. to catch a quick sail..yes i do believe i'd say the same thing to daughter go out and check on me from time to time when that time comes but not 7/24..it really is non-sensical to be witnessing something as lifeless as a four walled room and waiting for a miracle to happen..i guess discernment from above is what's needed