ok said..
Be careful what you wish for..28 year old male growing up in a new age of easily offended beings and lazy ungrateful youth who want to sponge of the hard work of there parents.they are old. they have little to zero outlets of there 1950s opinioons.

they will be dead before you.

learn what you can.

while you can.


Maybe be grateful that they still exist.

I wish i had some of my dead folk to talk too.

I wish But hey im not 38 asking for mummie and daddy to drop me of at work and pack me lunch.

After spending nearly three weeks in hospital and seeing lots of over 70's and 80's I can verify getting old is no laughing matter!!

Not being able to have a shower or go to the toilet by yourself is the most obvious problem.

Not being able to walk or even get in a wheelchair too.

I was questioning if there's any purpose to life at this stage. Some wil improve others clearly will not.

Got to know two 88 year olds well in there.

One I only spoke to once or twice but I got to know him well thru listening to his conversations with his sons and daughters. Ken from Leicester loved reminiscing about his life in the Navy. Despite being totally incapable of helping himself he was still in good to great spirits. He was hoping to move in to a old folks home if he recovers somewhat. He had fallen at home for the third time in the last few years.

The other 88 year old I met was staying in a room 100 metres away from my room.

I was testing my wheelchair out and said hi whilst he was listening to his radio.

He was a former top chess player in the state and and he told me he has hundreds of chess books in his garage!

His life was reading the newspaper,dinner and chatting with me for half an hour each day.

There was a 72 year old in the next bed to me who was quite short or sharp at times.

Had some serious back issues and did not enjoy his three daily rolls in bed that were needed to stop bedsores etc.

One of the nurses bite back at him a little but it ended well.

Having patience with older people is the key.

I see it very much as the circle of life in that parents have to put up with their kids tantrums, childish babbling, incoherent thought processes, whinging etc. and then when the parents get old, the children have to deal with their parents deteriorating mental capabilities, reduced tolerance to anything they don't like and opinion giving with no filter. From the mouths of babes comes the unfiltered, honest (in their opinion) truth and the same could be said for the elderly. Really, who is going to care whether what you are saying is not pc or may cause embarrassment to someone when you are 6 or 7, or conversely, 70 or 80? Circle of life....

TH

decrepit said..

>>>>Really, who is going to care whether what you are saying is not pc or may cause embarrassment to someone when you are 6 or 7, or conversely, 70 or 80? Circle of life....

TH

So now I can really let rip, and have a valid excuse?

You don't seem to have been too concerned up until now.

My advise to you,
hang out in the poledancing forum to get use to all the oldies whining about nothing,
half hour in there and your ageing rello's will seem like a walk in the park.

seems your agreeing with my advise lol

busterwa said..
Its good advice Its very difficult to deal with older people especially when running a busy household with kids. Kids are little booger fests factories Never been so sick in my life went 6 years without getting sic now Kids sick,me sick partner sick 34 degrees middle of summer. Not time to myself cant windsurf and everything I ever owned worked hard for is now destroyed.There is nothing of limits.
If you want a life don't have kids.

Hmm. You're parents did

busterwa said..
Love my older extended family to pieces but cringe at the though of visiting because they unload on you Like i say .Hello How are you ? Dont get a word in for 45min. Not sure how things used to be but its got to the stage where i can visit certain relatives because the conversation is them 97% me% yes yes yes. Hows do you deal with older people.? doing my head in and distancing myself from them as cant deal with it. Went over there the other day and they said i shouldn't be out on the water cause have a broken foot already. Id like to offer some advice back but wouldn't sit to well . They say they they want to see me and my family more But unfortunately with all the added advice i dont seem to be going out my way to accommodate it. What do you do?

you're an a grade C U N T mate

cauncy said..
Hes a real gentleman, raises his hat and greets the ladies and girls as he enters the cafe,

Sexist pig, lock him up. I bet he has an old Golliwog doll stashed somewhere in the back of a cupboard too.

Gee this one's flown off the rails hasn't it.....

I think this is serious, everyone who has family goes through something or some stresses that they wish they didn't have too,, everyone who has no family would be grateful for the opportunity.

Its not always black and white,

has as anyone asked buster if he's ok, buster have you asked yourself mate? Are you ok?

Anyone who has started a family with a female human being soon learns that time is to be shared with kids and responsibilities and bills and rellies.
I always would like to think I'd be an awesome grandad.
It is sad when we see faults in our parents which we know could be avoided or are perhaps hypocritical to the values which we are expected to adhere too..

Families get destroyed and ripped apart nowadays by marriage breakdowns, distance, alcohol, gambling, drugs, abuse, infidelity and as a general rule the world really is out to get you...
It is for these very reasons that family is important and family should be a safe haven from the bad things in the world...
If there are family members who make you feel other than this than cut them off...........

generally if i cut someone off off its cause they handed me the scissors.

Groucho Marx said: I don't want to be part of any club that would want me as a member.....

"generally if i cut someone off off its cause they handed me the scissors" Thanks Razz. Sums it up in a nutshell.. Im glad your family is so functional Cuancy appreciate the good times .