eppo said...As a man born in 1973, who kited before girlfriend, then girlfriend, then married, then puppy, then two kids and a mortgage I am well qualified to answer this one.
I married my equal, hard nosed woman, who knows what she wants and stand for nothing less.
Yet we have had our moments in terms of kiting versus other crap that I have no interest in - like 3 year old birthday parties (not my own), or hanging with the husband of her new best friend - jesus they make you do some outrageous domesticated **** don't they!.
Funny thing, at first I must say the snag cultural upbringing did come to the service. I really did capitulate at first.
But then one day i had enough, grew some balls and laid it out exactly how it was going to work. Although you love them dearly, you almost have to find that true selfish wanker, buried under the years of cultural baggage, and switch off the snag. (Please I don't mean physical violence or even verbal - blokes who do that a the weakest pricks of them all - although don't get me wrong their are times i've smashed objects outside, near the shed - I'm no saint!).
I just calmly said this is what is going to happen, picked up my gear, went down the beach - and have done ever since. If she fires up I just smile and leave - and occasionally let rip...but not often.
But but but....here's the kicker gentleman, I don't dilute my time doing bull****. I'm either at work, at home with the kids -sharing the house duties, well at least 30/70
, or kiting.
Yes your time is not your own, so when at home I help out heaps - very rarely sit on the couch watching telly unless she is as well.
But before she plans anything, at all - she checks with me (unless it is a direct family thingy - then I'm expected).
Kiting time is mine, any other time is hers and the kids.
But yeh i went through both the snag then the - I', sorry my foot is going down, this is how it is going to be - they get emotional, you gotta stay dead calm and calculated.
Hope it helps, ****s me to tears when I here guys giving up their hobbies - happened to my mates, they become miserable bastards, and end up being terrible husbands. We are built to hunt - in whatever form, they are built to gather, you become a gatherer you are sunk and it will manifest in terrible ways.
men do what ya gotta do, but be there for her - be a man, not a pussy wimp, jesus they have a hard job as mothers/working - farqed if I'd wanna be a women. Let her know calmly how things are gonna be, but be reasonable. Hissy fits may follow, stay calm, and go and hang some washing for her!!
